How to change your attitude for the better

When something happens to you, the only thing in your power is your attitude towards it. You can either accept it or resent it.

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When something bad happens to you, it’s easy to fall into a feeling of resentment or even anger. But if you choose to accept your situation and try to make the best out of it, you’ll find that your attitude will change.

Bad things happen to everyone. It’s how you react that makes the difference.

When something bad happens, it can be easy to fall into a feeling of resentment or anger. But if we choose to accept our situation and try to make the best out of it, we will find that our attitude will change for the better. In this article, we’ll explore how to change our attitude when the universe delivers some problems into our lives.

When something bad happens, it’s easy to let our emotions get the better of us. We can’t control what happens in life; we can only control how we react to it.

If you’re laid off from your job, for example, it can be easy to feel resentful towards the company that let you go. But if instead of feeling anger toward them, you take on a positive attitude and try to find work with another company, this will change your outlook. Instead of being stuck in resentment, you’ll be open to new opportunities.

When something bad happens to you, the only thing in your power is your attitude towards it. You can either accept it or resent it. So whether resigning yourself to luck, fate, or other people’s choices—or taking control of the situation and working for a positive outcome—you choose how you want your attitude to be.

1. I can stay positive and optimistic, even when things are tough.

I can stay positive and optimistic, even when things are tough. I know that it’s important to have this attitude because being pessimistic just makes life harder than it needs to be.

2. I can control the way I react to difficult situations.

If a situation is frustrating, it’s because of the way you chose to react to it. You could choose to stress about something and your day would be ruined or you could choose not to worry about that one thing and enjoy yourself.

3. I can focus on the good aspects of my situation.

One thing that I am grateful for is the fact that I’m able to focus on positive things and not get bogged down by negativity.. There are people in the world that have it much tougher than I do, so being able to appreciate this will help me out.

4. I can find ways to make the best out of my situation.

Even though life’s been tough, one of the things I’ve learned is that there are many ways to make the best out of anything. For example, if you’re having a bad day, do something nice for somebody else.

I can learn from the past, look at the present and find ways to make my future better.

5. I can keep a positive outlook, even in the face of adversity

Encouragement is important to keep a positive outlook. It can help you overcome your challenges, and stay focused on what’s in front of you.

I can control the way I react to difficult situations.

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Difficult situations happen all the time. Whether it’s a breakup, not getting that promotion at work, or dealing with your friend who has difficulties at home, we have no control over their occurrence, but we do get to choose how we deal with them. We get to decide whether we keep our cool and let time heal our wounds, or whether we let emotions control us and lash out in ways that are not beneficial to others or ourselves.

So when you’re faced with difficult times, stoic philosophers suggest that you should try to focus your energy on what you can control – yourself. And ask, do I want to react the way this situation is dictating I act?

The stoics believed there are three primary motivations for our actions: things we cannot control, things we can control, and things that are neither within our power nor worth worrying about.

Control, detachment, and judgement.

Note that stoicism isn’t really a philosophy of life for everyone because its primary focus is on how to be happy when you have very little in the way of material goods, social standing, good looks, or any other variable. If stoicism doesn’t work for you because you have little control over what happens to you in the outside world, it might help to turn your focus inward instead.

If stoicism does work for you, it’s a philosophy strategy to help you maintain a happy and healthy perspective on life. And the first step is the realization that stoics don’t judge emotions as good or bad. They think of them neutrally – neither bad nor good – just an experience like any other. Thus stoics aren’t stoics because they don’t experience emotions, but because they understand that their happiness does not depend on how these emotions are controlled.

Instead, stoics focus on what is in our control – the way we think about things, the way we respond to them, etc – rather than trying to control what is outside of our power.   

The stoics thought it was important to go through life with an awareness of what you can control and what you cannot. This way, stoics understand that they should not let outside factors – such as whether or not their crush returns their feelings, or how much money is in the bank – determine how successful a stoic person feels.

So next time you have a difficult situation, stoic philosophers recommend you try to take away the emotionality of it. Think about what you can control – which is your reaction and how much energy should be focused on this situation – and then just let time do its thing.

And finally…

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All the best!

Matt The Happy Human

5 Comments Add yours

  1. beth says:

    I’ve worked on this for a long time, and have gotten much better at it, but it’s an ongoing process and seeing reminders like this along the way sure helps


    1. Thankyou Beth.

      I think it takes practice, awareness and more practice. The better I get at observing my emotions, the better I get at not letting them overrule care and consideration for others and for myself.


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  2. spwilcen says:

    Mindful read. Thanks.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for reading and thanks for leaving a comment 🙂

      I hope that your day is full of contentment 🙂

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