One does not love one’s children just because they are one’s children, but because of the friendship formed while raising them

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This article discusses the idea that parents love their children not because they are theirs, but because of the bond formed while raising them.  If you think about it, your relationship with your child has nothing to do with how he or she came into this world. This is an insightful read for anyone who’s ever wondered if their feelings towards their child were more than just parental love.

In parenthood, it is easy to feel that your child is yours because you created him or her. There is more to parenthood than just the relationship associated with creating a child. Parenthood includes an emotional bond with one’s child which can even be stronger than the biological connection between parent and offspring. It could be said that the relationship between parents and children does not have anything to do with how he or she came into this world, but all about those years spent together in life. This discerning article offers new perspectives on relationships with our children, ones we should never take for granted.

Parenthood

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There are different relationships with our children, which can include parenthood and more. These relationships do not have anything to do with how he or she came into this world, but everything about the years spent in life together. It all starts with conception and the birth of the child. If the pregnancy is difficult and has complications, both parents have a brief respite filled with joy and happiness as the baby (or babies, if they’re fortunate to have twins or triplet or maybe more…) is taken for a quick weigh-in and first health-check to make sure everything is working as it should.

Bonding with your child can be an invaluable experience. More importantly, parenthood is all about the relationship you form with your child during those early years together. Skeptics may not understand or relate to this kind of parenthood, but keeping relationships, especially one’s children in check, is never easy. Parents love their children because the bond formed while raising them makes them feel obligated to our children, even if they do nothing for us in return.

Parenting includes the emotional bond that forms while raising them, regardless of whether it takes place in good times or bad. Social and financial circumstances may not always be great and, in some cases, parenthood is the last thing on our minds.

A parent must walk the line between being a best friend and an authority figure. That is not to say that parenthood should have no respect attached to it. There must always be the implicit understanding that parents have a great responsibility towards their children, but also authority as well. This duality allows both parties to understand each situation from their own perspective and become closer as friends rather than simply as fellow human beings co-existing in the same house.

Parenthood can be described as ‘the greatest social invention’ because raising another human being makes you responsible for his or her well-being, teaching them about life and everything needed to become successful adults. This builds an unbreakable bond between parent and child regardless of what happens around them. It is through these years together that both parents raise their children helping them along the way regardless of how difficult things may get sometimes.

Childhood

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Social business happens when somebody lends somebody an umbrella, gives directions to a stranger or pours another person’s coffee. Emotional business will happen when somebody is scared of thunder or excitement for Christmas morning.

A child has relationships with other people because they observe how their parents interact with others. The parent will model certain behaviors, like kindness and honesty. Children learn about these interactions through observation and imitate them to form relationships themselves.

Children learn to be kind by watching how the adults around them behave, especially their parents. If a child sees that their mother makes other people feel loved and welcomed, then they are likely to follow suit upon becoming an adult.

This is not to say that parenthood alone creates the relationship, but rather it is the friendship between parent and child that creates parenthood itself. It is how their childhood shaped them into who they are today. Children learn over time what it means to be a friend, to love someone unconditionally, and to become their own person.

Being raised by kind parents helps children learn empathy for others and realize that everyone deserves equal treatment. Friendship or obligingness with someone because of shared culture, race, religion, etc., pales in comparison with giving help out of pure benevolence.

With each new generation, we hope for something better than what was given to us: greater tolerance and acceptance for others and more respect for oneself.

History repeats itself

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As a child learns from its parents, the skills, abilities, and empathies are reflected back towards the parent. It is not a one-way street. A child is not a bucket with to be simply filled with love and left to hold onto it forever. The help and assistance that a child can provide in the later years of their parent’s lives, or during a time of emotional and financial upheaval are beautiful things to see.

The wheel turns full circle and as the mewling infant needed all of the love and support to grow, then the child also returns that love, encouragement, and cooperation.

That mutual aid is one built upon love, trust, and friendship. Sometimes the friendship falters and has an occasional rift. Those wounds can be healed. The differences can be turned into a consensus and the strong, powerful similarities re-assert their position as the guidebook to a happy, considerate and compassionate relationship.

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